Husband Pushed Over Toddler Out Of Anger - Can I Kick Him Out? (wa)

Old throwaway account so here’s hoping you guys can see this. For context, I (33F) was having a migraine last night and was already irritated with my husband (35M). He was also in a really bad mood, grumpy, glaring at me. He was lying on the couch engrossed in his cell phone when our 2yo ran up to him and tried to bite him. She has done
this before; to the best of my knowledge this is developmentally normal. He got really anger and started yelling at her, which we have talked about plenty of times. I do not want him to yell at my child out of anger. The only reason he should even raise his voice at all is to startle her out of fear for her safety. We have talked about this over, and over, and over again. Well, last night he was yelling at her for trying to bite him and she tried to bite him again. He took a large pillow and pushed her entire body to the ground. I reacted with shock. I told him wtf you pushed her over!? I ran and grabbed my daughter. She is not injured. He glared at me like I was taking her side. Again, she’s 2.

This is obviously unacceptable. I am planning to talk to him this morning, and demand that he leave. He had a violence-against-objects episode 3 years ago that resulted in me leaving for 6 months. We did couples therapy and he did anger management and that seemed to work really well but we stopped going shortly after I came home. I had left a message for our couples therapist last night but woke up this morning clear-headed recognizing that he has to go.

My question for y’all, what if he decides he isn’t going to leave? Do I call the police? Should I have called last night? I tried the domestic violence national hotline, and also the hotline for our county, and couldn’t leave a message for either number. What do I do?

Location: WA