Being Ordered To Speak On A Parenting App And Ex Submitting Nude Photos As “evidence” [custody]

**Editing my post: I didn’t expect to get much of a response from my post. I appreciate each and every one of you for taking the time to ease my anxieties and I have read and considered all advice. I went into a bit of a panic. I have such bad trauma responses after 6 years of his abuse. But after my mind calmed down, I remembered there is absolutely nothing he has that would show at all that I am not a safe or competent mother. He has been obsessed with me and it’s just getting worse. I am not backing down from standing my ground and he will not control me and my emotions any longer. sadly him speaking about having nudes was on phone call. I’m done answering those too. I will definitely ask my lawyer if anything could be done with the fact that he has backed up sooo many of my personal things to a laptop, all of my personal things from my iCloud, email, texts, photo albums & still keeps to this day despite us being broken up for years. It’s scary and exhausting but I’m hoping if I stand my ground and stop getting scared of him, eventually he will lose power and back off.

Location: New Jersey

My ex and I are getting ready to sign a standard custody order, for the most part. He has been relentless with harassing me lately. He will text me on HIS time with the kids, about what I’m doing and who I’m with. He calls me a horrible mother, says I have mental issues, that I’m disgusting, etc. That he hopes I get pregnant and have an abortion. I do not engage and I ask him to please stop, he does not.

I wanted my lawyer to add that we speak on a parenting app. My ex said that if I did add that, he will not sign and is fine spending money to go to court. I want to back down so bad because I’m drained, emotionally and financially, but I can’t.

Is there any reason that the judge would not allow us to speak on a parenting app? My ex said if I do that and show the harassing texts, he will submit nude photos of me and explicit conversations with other men. He took my phone years ago and backed all of my stuff onto his laptop, because he had bought the phone for me when we were together. He came over to see the kids when we were not together , took the phone back and kept it since then.

I don’t even know what he has, what was in my photo albums or what I may have ever talked to another guy about. But it has nothing to do with the kids. Please please please tell me that he cannot do this. That his lawyer will tell him he is out of his mind.

He said he’s going to argue that he is concerned that I am bringing random men in the house when the kids are sleeping. I’m not, I never have. But I think there was one conversation where I spoke with an old friend that I went to school with (NOT random at all) and said we can hang out after my kids are in bed. That was in 2021 or 2022 . That’s it. I don’t have a bunch of men around my kids at all.

I am just so freaking stressed. I hate this. My ex is so unhinged.