'love Yourself' Doesn't Work — Here's What Actually Does

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???? Chapters:
0:00 The rage of hearing "love yourself first"
0:46 Why this phrase makes us so mad
2:02 The relationship pattern I kept repeating
2:44 Stage four of healing disorganized attachment
3:31 Seeing the pattern in real time vs. actually doing something about it
5:06 There is no final box to check
5:32 Why I stopped venting while I was still raw
5:55 Top brain vs. bottom brain
8:13 How to tell which one you're in
10:24 How to get back to the top of your brain
11:27 What to say instead of "you have to love yourself"
14:18 Whose voice is that, actually?
16:37 The healing fantasy hiding inside "love yourself first"

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