It's Not Always Our Fault

In this episode, I explore what it really takes to break free from the relationship patterns that keep us stuck—with trained educator and relationship expert Stefanos Sifandos (@stefanosssifandos). With a background in behavioral science, trauma, and somatics, Stefanos brings a grounded, embodied perspective to the way we love, attach, and relate to ourselves and others.

We unpack how early experiences and unprocessed trauma quietly shape our nervous systems, our choices, and the dynamics we recreate in intimate relationships. Stefanos explains why awareness alone isn’t enough, and how lasting change requires working with the body—not just the mind—to rewire safety, trust, and emotional regulation. If you’ve ever found yourself repeating the same cycles despite years of “knowing better,” this conversation sheds light on why that happens and what actually helps shift it.

This episode is an invitation to relate more consciously to your partner, your past, and yourself. If you’re committed to personal growth, healing relational wounds, and stepping into your highest potential with honesty and integrity, this conversation offers both clarity and depth.

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???? (00:00:00) Place, Memory, and the Moment Everything Broke Open

???? (00:20:03) How Childhood Wounds Shape Our Adult Relationships

???? (00:33:33) Codependency, the Nervous System, and the Real Work of Intimacy

???? (01:14:34) Celibacy, Solitude, and Rebuilding Self-Worth from the Inside Out

???? (01:45:15) Body Shame, Transparency, and Emotional Responsibility in Relationship

???? (02:10:35) The Mother Wound, Enmeshment, and Integrating Growth

???? (02:32:58) Integrity, Service, and the Inner Conflict Around Being Paid to Help

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