Mistakes Teenagers Make That Hurt Their Future

Mistakes Teenagers Make That Hurt Their Future. What mistakes do teenagers make that can hurt their future?

Matt Easton, founder of Easton University, sits down for a candid conversation about the small decisions teenagers make, the people they surround themselves with, relationships, values and how those choices can compound over time.

One of the first mistakes?

TAKING THE EASY ROUTE.

A teenager may not see the consequences immediately.

But small decisions can snowball.

Then comes one of the biggest influences in your life:

THE PEOPLE AROUND YOU.

You've probably heard:

"You become the people you hang around."

Or:

"You're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with."

Matt agrees with the principle—but adds an important distinction.

YOU CAN PUT PEOPLE IN DIFFERENT BUCKETS.

You might have:

FOUNDATIONAL FRIENDS.

HOCKEY FRIENDS.

FISHING FRIENDS.

CAR FRIENDS.

MOTORCYCLE FRIENDS.

JIU-JITSU FRIENDS.

BEACH FRIENDS.

People can be great to spend time with in one part of your life without automatically earning access to EVERY part of your life.

That's the skill.

You don't have to disrespect somebody.

You don't necessarily have to stop hanging out with them.

But you DO need to understand:

WHAT ROLE SHOULD THIS PERSON HAVE IN MY LIFE?

The same principle becomes even more important with dating.

The person you eventually choose as a serious partner may become the person you spend more time with than almost anyone else.

That makes shared values incredibly important.

Don't gradually lower your standards simply because you don't want to be alone.

Know your values.

Know which relationships are foundational.

Know which people belong in a specific part of your life.

And protect the direction you're trying to go.

NOT EVERYONE YOU LIKE DESERVES ACCESS TO EVERY PART OF YOUR LIFE.

IN THIS VIDEO:

Mistakes teenagers make that hurt their future
Biggest mistakes teenagers make
Advice for teenagers
How friends influence your future
How to choose your friends
Peer pressure in high school
Why your friend group matters
How to avoid the wrong crowd
Teenage dating advice
Choosing the right people
Life advice for teenagers
How to make better decisions as a teenager

KEY MOMENTS:

0:00 — The fork in the road teenagers face
0:35 — Taking the easy route
0:57 — How your friend group changes you
1:38 — Are you really the average of 5 people?
2:18 — What if you don't have 5 successful friends?
2:36 — The Matt Easton "bucket" strategy
3:32 — The "Weedy Mike" example
3:49 — Jiu-jitsu friends vs. foundational friends
4:46 — Applying the bucket strategy to dating
5:00 — Why your partner matters so much
5:32 — Don't lower your standards
6:18 — How Matt viewed relationships before meeting his wife
6:27 — Recognizing shared values
6:45 — You can have 50 different friends
7:03 — Final takeaway

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QUESTIONS & ANSWERS:

Q: What mistakes can teenagers make that hurt their future?

One mistake discussed in this conversation is repeatedly taking the easy route. Small decisions can snowball over time. Another major factor is allowing the wrong people to have too much influence over your decisions and values.

Q: How much do your friends influence who you become?

The conversation emphasizes that your friend group can have a major influence on your decisions and the person you become. Matt Easton agrees with the familiar idea that you become like the people you spend the most time around.

Q: Do you need to stop being friends with people who don't share all your values?

Not necessarily. Matt recommends "siloing" people into different buckets. Someone might be a great hockey, fishing, jiu-jitsu or beach friend without necessarily becoming one of the foundational people influencing every area of your life.

Q: How do you choose good friends as a teenager?

Matt recommends identifying the people who genuinely represent your values and treating those people as foundational relationships while being intentional about the role other friendships play in your life.

Q: Why does choosing a boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse matter so much?

Matt points out that a serious partner may eventually become the person you spend the most time around. Because close relationships can strongly influence you, he emphasizes choosing serious partners whose values align with yours.

Q: What does it mean to put friends into different buckets?

It means recognizing that someone can be a good friend for a particular activity or part of your life without automatically becoming someone you rely on for values, major decisions or every part of your personal life.

Matt Easton
Founder, Easton University

EastonUniversity.com

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