(virginia) Ex (m, 38) Owes Me (f,26) $12k+ In Loans And Credit Card Fraud And Refuses To Pay. Looking For Legal And Financial Recovery Advice

Location: Virginia

First I know I’ve been very foolish in trusting this man, please don’t give me heat for that. I’ve since learned my lesson.

I’ve itemized the list of everything I’ve given him totaling $12250. There’s also about $3k that mysteriously disappeared from my room that only he has been in, but that’s another story). I think the amount I’m most pressed out is this $5k from a credit card in which I added him as an authorized user during a trip I wanted him to join me in of which he was struggling with paying. Then over the course of 3 months there were 12 transactions of varying amounts from 150 to 900 sent to my ex’s PayPal account form the card, both on my credit card and his. The funds sent to the PayPal were then sent to various crypto addresses. He said none of this was him. He said he would contact Paypal to refund me and told me he had but I never got any refunds. So for some of them I reported them to my credit card company, once there were still charges even after I locked and replaced the cards (and didn’t give it to him, meaning the that only way someone was doing this was by logging on to his credit card account and unlocking the cards and using the virtual card and then also “hacking” his PayPal account). He was very upset that I did this because the credit card company took the funds from his PayPal, which had nothing in it anymore, giving him a negative balance). He uses this PayPal account for all of his business transactions so it was a great impediment to him and he told me to contact my credit card company and take responsibility for the charges. And eventually they granted that. In the meantime I gave him 1150 to restore his PayPal account that he said as soon as PayPal released the funds back to his PayPal, he would send me the funds back. Then when the time came that they sent it back he refused to do so, claiming that I had caused him to lose much money due to him not being able to use his PayPal account.

I have been paying off this card for the past 3 months and most everything I will be making at work for the next 4-6 months will be lost in this same way. He is 38 years old I am 26. Almost everything I made in the first year of me working has gone to this man and during the second year all the money I’m making is going towards fixing this situation. When I ask him about this, he pulls out “that’s your fault, you took out a credit card in my name” which is a gross misrepresentation of what happened and we both were aware that I was adding him as an authorized user for that trip and he had to provide me with the details to be able to do so.

For any of the other money I’ve given, he responds with being offended that I have the itemized list and starts itemizing derives that he’s done for me to offset that he owes me anything (fixing my iPad, enduring stress etc)

There’s also a motorcycle that was in my name up until a couple of months ago (now it’s in both) that I paid for 2200 and he said he was going to pay me back and has not.

Edit: He is actually 39 now