Coworker Is Showing Intimate Video Footage Without My Consent.

Location: Florida

I (22M) am experiencing a leaked sextape. The people included are me, another girl (24F)I work with. The story begins on January 1st, we were hanging out on new years having some drinks at a local bar. We get pretty wasted out at the bars that night, then uber back to my house. At this point we are just friends,and in fact i met a girl at the bar and she Ubered back with us. We get back to my house and we continue drinking and also partake in other substances as well. At some point in the night the 3rd girl calls her Uber and leaves. Now it’s just the 2 of us, so we continue to hangout as we have for multiple times before hand. At some point we end up hooking up, and then call an uber to go back to her house because I have roommates. When we get to her house we end up hooking up again , as two horny and intoxicated 20 year something olds do. At some point i remember her telling me “we should record it” and me being drunk, horny, and a flat out jackass i agreed. The mistake that I also made was taking the footage on her phone. So now there’s just a POV of me having sex with this woman. The only smart thing I did , was not have my face in the video. I also don’t have any tattoos so it’s not like the tattoos can be easily matched to a person.

Honestly, i forgot about it. We went about the weeks, talking being cool at work, not having any significant disagreements. I was at work last night though, when another coworker of mine comes up and tells me “hey man, out of respect and id rather you hear it from me than anybody else. Allegedly (24F) is showing people the video of you hooking up.” I was genuinely taken aback because sure I expected people to find out eventually, but never once was it on my bingo card that she would be going around showing people the video. In hindsight though it’s like of course thats so damn obvious that it would be the case. I text her last night saying “so why did i have to find out from (26M) coworker that you’ve been telling people we hooked up” and she said some bullshit excuse if “oh the girls at work gaslit me and so then i just confessed to it.” I called her out on her bullshit though, saying “well he didn’t just mention us hooking up he also mentioned the video and how would be know about that unless you showed someone.” Ive yet to have a reply to that, but allegedly she’s in the other girls dm’s at work basically getting pissed off for that information getting leaked.

I’ve been here all day kinda thinking about it, just keeps running on my mind like an endless loop. I’ve gotten a few opinions from people that in my tight circle and a few of my close coworkers who know about the situation, so i am now going to share them now. A) I talk to her, get the video deleted then just leave it be. The problem with this though in my mind is who knows how many times she sent it to people and the video can be easily accessed and resaved. Once it’s out, it’s out. B) I simply do nothing about it, let it go and just hope to God that she doesn’t leak it to more people or potentially social media. C) I get her fired. This is the most popular opinion especially from my coworkers who already aren’t too fond of her because of other workplace drama between the girls. The problem i see with this though, is that if i go report it and she does get fired who’s to say if she doesn’t just straight up leak it out of rage and hatred. The thing with option C is that if the shoe was on the other foot and I leaked it, id be fired immediately no questions asked.

Im genuinely concerned about my privacy in this situation. I don’t know how many people have already seen the video and I don’t want it further spreading. Do I handle this privately? Should i bring this to HR and make a report immediately? What are my legal options and what are the steps that I should be taking to protect my image and privacy?