Divorce, Custody, Relocating- What Can I Do

TL,DR: ongoing divorce and custody battle. If ex is ordered to pay marital home mortgage etc through temporary orders, what happens if I move?

I'm the middle of a divorce and custody battle, past the one year mark.

I am temporary custodial and residential parent. Ex has regular weekly visit time with the kids. I have protections from the ex.

I had an incredible career promotion offer out of state and was denied permission to relocate with the kids. It has been my only opportunity to get financial stability and not be impoverished. Ex does not make much money.

I have applied for more than 250 jobs in my state over the past year. I am still without work (8+ years as I was home full time raising kid) and receive a very modest amount for child support each month. Ex is also ordered to pay the mortgage, Internet, utilities, car of the marital home where we live. Can't remember every specific but cover just the basics. When first given options by my attorney,I preferred the expenses to be covered through ex giving housing funds directly to me, as I could apply that to wherever I lived and planned to relocate. Unfortunately my atty ignored me and elected to request ex continue auto payments to "make it easier for" the ex.

Ultimately I am trying to relocate to a metro area for better opportunities but I have been unsuccessful in job search. My lawyer acts like there will be ANOTHER hearing for us to move within the state, prove my efforts (already did that), etc. Acting like I will continue to be denied any options , with their flimsy oppositional arguments, to keep us trapped here under ex's control.

Now Through a rare connection, I can get housing in a nearby town. This would not be the ultimate goal of metro opportunities and long distance parenting plan; it would continue to keep us trapped under ex's refusals for every single thing (refusing better schools, activities, etc). But, it would get me into a little bigger town with things going on and better resources, hopefully a job somehow magically. I don't want to end up trapped there but I definitely don't want to end up trapped here, in this TINY town with everyone who betrayed me and took ex's side, with no work no opportunities no nothing.

If I move, am I going to have to pay for all of my own housing expenses since ex is ordered to pay the marital home? What about all our junk in the home? Location: Ohio. Thank you