Do These Qualify For Modifying Custody From Joint To Sole Legal Or Submit Contempt?

Location: Oregon

I am going into this without representation. I’d like to know simply if you believe that I ehave a chance or not.

I am the custodial parent, having Sun-Thurs weekly.

Evidence examples:

1. Attempting to withhold during exchange time because I refused to go home first and gather an item, he said I could only retrieve child once I had item, only let me have child when I told him I would have law enforcement help with retrieval.

2. Violation of ROFR (spending the entirety of parenting time 3 hrs away leaving child with sitter, working 12+ shifts leaving child with sitter)

3. Over 25 instances of being over 20 & 30 minutes late, multiple instances of being hours late, because he was sleeping during exchange WHILE child was with him.

4. Absolute refusal to allow me my entitled extra time over the last 2 years. (CO states: Mother is entitled to have one weekend per month upon 7 days’ notice to father, as long as father does not already have plans for the requested weekend). I have attempted to request up to 8 months in advance, and I’m met with threats of police or court. He states he has plans every single weekend, refuses to provide proof, or an alternative weekend.

5. I have evidence (screenshots between him and gf) of him sleeping for multiple hours during the day while our 3 year old is awake alone. He states himself that our child soiled himself after saying that he had to go potty multiple times, expresses frustration that our child kept waking him up for food or apple juice, and also says “I’m never going to get any f*cking sleep” in the afternoon.

6. He is constantly interfering with parenting, and will not co-parent. An example, he ignored me for three months when I was trying to communicate about getting our child in preschool, then told me “Find a school and enroll him”, and when I tried; he took it back and said I’d be in contempt if I continued.

7. He is purposely misinterpreting the CO out of control, refusing to go back to mediation to get it rewritten, and then fear mongered me when I offered to pay his part of mediation too, and telling me I’d be wasting my money because we wouldn’t agree to anything anyway.

When I don’t agree with him, he constantly threatens me with police or court. I have tried my best to coparent effectively. The conversations are consistently hostile, and he refuses to use a co-parenting app (not court ordered).