Family Member Worried About Ice In The Delivery Room

Location: Nevada. In laws are out of state if their location is needed too, please let me know.

FM: Family member

My FM is currently experiencing a high-risk pregnancy after already experiencing one with her first child. She will be giving birth in a couple weeks. She is in the process of filing for divorce as her husband doesn't contribute monetarily, clean, foists off his kid to my family, rarely sees his kid, has maxed out all of her credit cards, and has tanked her credit in the process on top of the massive debt he has. She has been the primary bread winner when he makes only 300 less and has been doing all of the cleaning while high risk. He has never contributed to the mortgage; his only contribution is his car payment and insurance. The house is in her name.

She is trying to go for joint custody as she believes her children still deserve their father. However, his family is seeming to make that difficult.

On Sunday, her sister-in-law messaged her an article talking about how marriage for citizenship was illegal. My FM already had a green card long before she met her husband and is also a nurse so is currently being sponsored. I believe what the SIL is saying is very inappropriate since our entire family has citizenship and it feels pretty racist. On top of that, she is threatening to use my FM's post-partum depression against her in court. They are also saying that we are purposely not potty training her 2-year-old and that is illegal? FM has multiple toilets for potty training, but her 2-year-old has not taken to it yet.

They are still messaging my FM. MIL and SIL.

SIL is also saying that FM and I's relative's house is "unlivable" when my parent is a stroke victim (lives with relative) and they regularly get visited by social workers. They would let us know if the house was unlivable, right? Relative's house, you wouldn't be able to find a speck of dust but has boxes due to relative being a small business owner and toys for 2 y/o. 6 people currently live in the house. This relative also takes care of 2 y/o every day from 7 am to 8 pm, and also FM as she is on bedrest. I didn't know FM's husband had weekends off since he was still dropping off 2 y/o every day.

They're currently trying to paint FM as unstable and a danger to her children due to her post-partum depression, which I don't understand as her husband leaves her alone with 2 y/o a majority of the day and most of the time he does see 2 y/o, he's already asleep. That behavior does not make sense if he sees his spouse as unstable and a danger to the children.

She is not allowing her husband in the delivery room as he dropped her legs right after her c section as she said her legs were numb and instead of asking the doctor like she said, he picked up her legs and dropped them on the bed and said, "do you feel them now?" They and him keep saying they want FM to work things out with husband but I think we are well over the point of that happening. The dishes are still in the sink.

FM is currently terrified. She was crying and panicking last night that ICE and CPS were going to be in the delivery room. We all know she's here legally and has all her papers and she knows that her hospital told her that they would not work with ICE as they need their patients to be safe well before she was a patient herself as that is her workplace, but she is obviously frazzled right now. She is worried that ICE won't care that she has a green card. We don't know what to do. We have taken her to the police station to write a statement, but we are unbelievably worried as this was around the time in pregnancy FM ended up having a preemie last time. FM has already been working 12 hr shifts and overnight shifts throughout her entire pregnancy before being put on bedrest so there are not enough words for how worried we are for her wellbeing and the baby's. FM is currently staying with Relative as she is unable to evict her husband.