Got Kicked Out And A Standby Didn’t Work, What Next?

Location: Minnesota

Back in March, my mother kicked me out of the house. I’m now 20, then I was 19. It wasn’t the first time it had happened and at that point i was done, so i left. I didn’t go crawling back like i had countless times before. And ever since then i’ve been trying to just get my things. I tried playing nice with her and agreeing to meet for lunches she cancelled or ghosted me for, and when that didn’t work I tried to get a civil standby from the sheriffs office. My uncle was also moving out of her house, and she was withholding his stuff, my stuff, and my 11y/o cousin’s belongings. We waited for two hours due to a high priority event going on in the area, which was fine, but then after being told by the deputy he was on his way, he called and said “your mom said you guys can’t go today I can’t do anything else to help, sorry.” He suggested going through the court system, which would work for my uncle but not for me

My uncle didn’t listen, got pissed, and went there against the deputy’s advice to argue with my mom. He got his things back.

I sat in the car crying because i was overwhelmed, and could hear my mother talking about me and how terrible a kid I was to her neighbor. Then a deputy came up to me and told me I couldn’t get my things.

The reasoning i was given was that I had never legally lived at the residence It wa on my ID as my address, I’ve been attached to it for as long as my mother had been, but because I was never documented as paying rent(even though I did, just in cash because that’s the only way she’d take it), I wasn’t entitled to my belongings that were in the house.

I would go through the courts, if I had any documentation. But I don’t, because I also had to wipe my bank account since she had access to it and drained my savings the night she kicked me out. It wasn’t much, but it was a good $1k, and i couldn’t risk her doing that again. So the moment I could i closed my old student account and made myself a new one. But now all of those records are gone.

She has my grandfather’s ashes, my childhood dog’s urn, my laptop, my ipad, my birth certificate. I just don’t know what to do because I can not afford to replace everything, as I’m paying rent and bills, and some of the things I can’t even replace if i could afford it. This has been going on for the last 9 months and i’m just so tired. I’ve since blocked her on everything, and the last contact i had was her bypassing said block with a burner phone to tell me she had a “third party pack up my things and i could call her to find a time to get them.” Hearing her voice gave me a panic attack. My aunt then reached out saying the same thing and offering to help by bringing what she could from my old house to my new apartment. Then she ghosted me for almost a month until she needed me to watch her kid. It was then she told me that she hadn’t heard from my mother since then, and last she knew she was having to put my other childhood dog’s down.

Any advice is welcome. I’m just tired of dealing with this.