I Filed For Conservatorship Of My Sister Bc She Lives In Mold With Rats. My Family Got A Lawyer. Wtf Do I Do? Am I Screwed? Sos

I’m (24F) filing for conservatorship for my big sister (25F) and let’s call her R. She was born with ID (intellectual disability) didn’t get diagnosed till she was 19. I was told by several family members that she was diagnosed with ASD as little as 26 months old but my grandma didn’t want her to be autistic so they kept going to doctors till they got a diagnosis that wasn’t ASD. Not sure how true that is but that’s the information I have.

The house she’s in is filled with mold and infested with rats. My grandma lives there with my sister and she’s very abusive toward my sister. My aunt also visits very often. They both hit her, scream at her and call her names. My sister got assaulted and when my aunt found out she hit R with a metal bat and said it was her fault. When R is unable to do a task asked by them she’ll hide bc when she asks for help they scream, throw things at her and hit her. When they find that the task is not done then find her they scream at her. They don’t make sure she’s clean as when I visit I have to scrub the dirt off her. Her hair is matted and I have to dematt it and the whole time she’s basically attacking me. She only eats rice bc no one cooks for her. I can go on and on.

I told my gma I was filing for conservatorship the day before I filed. She said, “Why the fuck did you do that? I asked you not to do that. R isn’t going fucking anywhere” and hung up.

Two days later my gma and aunt (and presumably my mom) took my sister to a hotel, turned her phone off and completely stopped contact with me. She turned R’s phone off so I wouldn’t have her location and so R couldn’t speak to me. I haven’t spoken to R in over a month when usually we call daily.

My sister also has a lot of medical issues and needs a medical procedure done daily and it does not get done bc my sister says no. She hates it bc it hurts and she doesn’t fully understand why it has to be done so instead of doing it and explaining they just don’t do it bc it’s a hassle. They blame R and call her irresponsible for not doing the procedure.

In my state, the proposed conservatee must be served the citation for conservatorship in person. My grandma wouldn’t tell me where they were and completely ghosted me. She was hanging up my calls and leaving me on read. Since R’s phone was off she went straight to voicemail. I finally figured out where they were and we had to call the cops to make my gma bring my sister out to get served.

Now, it’s time to serve again bc the temporary conservatorship got extended bc I didn’t serve the public defender bc I didn’t even know there WAS a public defender. My gma is doing the same thing and having no contact with me or allowing contact between me and R. I’ve been calling and texting non stop, all day, everyday. Yesterday, I had a friend go to the house to serve R. When she knocked on the door my aunt answered and when my friend explained she needs to give R these papers my aunt said, “R isn’t receiving mail right now. You need to get off the property.” When my friend asked again my aunt said, “This is a family matter and I’m sorry (me) is involving you and you need to get off the property right now”.

Now I just found out they got a lawyer and I’m panicking. What do I do? If they have a lawyer aren’t I basically fucked? I see on the cameras that they’re deep cleaning the house and treating the mold and they’re gonna make it look like it’s perfect and make me look crazy.

Idk what to do. If this case falls through then I’ll never see R again. Simple as that. They’re already making sure I don’t see her now. What do I do? I’m panicking.

Location: California