I Need Advice Or Anything Urgently.

Location: Ontario

I’m in Ontario and I’m honestly looking for advice because I’m still in shock over what happened.

For some background, my ex cheated on me within the first few months of our relationship. Since then, she’s repeatedly tried to reconcile, but I’ve consistently told her that the relationship is over and that she needs to move on. I’ve blocked her on every platform I can, but she still finds ways to contact me. I still receive emails because Gmail sends them to my spam folder instead of completely blocking them, and I also get repeated No Caller ID calls.
To discourage her from continuing to contact me or asking to see me, I even started charging her a fee whenever she insisted on seeing me, hoping she’d eventually stop and leave me alone.
On the day this happened, my ex came to my house around 9:00 p.m. I had originally told her she could come around 11:30 p.m., but she showed up much earlier. Because of that, I didn’t want her coming inside my house.
She came to my front door because she believed another girl was inside. She started banging on my door. I opened it slightly, and she pushed the door into me trying to get inside. There was nobody else in my house, so I closed and locked the door with her outside.
I repeatedly told her to leave and go home. She refused.
At that point, I decided to go for a drive, hoping she’d be gone by the time I got back. As I walked to my car, she kept blocking my path and begging me to stay. I refused. I unlocked my car to leave, and she got into the passenger seat. I repeatedly told her to get out of my car, but she refused.
I wanted to leave, so I pushed her out of the passenger side so she would exit the vehicle. She was holding a Starbucks matcha, and during that interaction it spilled on her and on my passenger seat. Once she was out, I immediately locked the doors and drove away.
While I was driving, I noticed I had missed voicemails from a police officer. At that point I had a feeling about who had called the police. The voicemail asked me to return home because they wanted to hear my side.
When I got back, the officers weren’t there anymore, so I called and they came back to speak with me.
From the beginning, it felt like they had already made up their minds. I explained exactly what happened and even offered to show screenshots, emails, and other evidence that, in my view, showed my ex had been persistently contacting me despite my attempts to cut off communication. It felt like they weren’t interested in looking at any of it.
One officer was particularly confrontational. He called me a coward, accused me of hitting women, told me I had anger issues, and repeatedly told me I was lucky I wasn’t being arrested even though he also said they didn’t have enough evidence to charge me. He also told me he’d make sure my car got towed because there is construction on my street and said he’d be patrolling the area looking for parking violations.
The officers ultimately told me they didn’t have enough evidence to charge me, so I wasn’t arrested or charged. They also told me to block my ex and avoid contact. I explained that she was already blocked everywhere possible and that Gmail only sends blocked emails to spam rather than preventing them entirely. They told me not to check the spam folder. That was the end of the interaction.
Another thing that has me confused is that one of the officers claimed there had been a domestic violence report involving me in 2025. I had never heard about this before and was never contacted by police. I’m now submitting a records request to find out what he was referring to.
I’ve already spoken with a lawyer, and the advice I received was that since I haven’t been charged, there’s nothing I need to do right now unless something changes.
I’m honestly shocked that someone I once trusted has put me in this position. I’m also on a study permit, so this whole situation has been extremely stressful.
My questions are:
Is it normal for police to appear to accept one person’s version of events before hearing the other person’s side?
Is requesting the 2025 police records the right next step?
Based on what I’ve described, should I consider filing a complaint about the officer’s conduct?
Is there anything else I should be doing to protect myself now that I haven’t been charged?