I Suspect My Mother Is *potentially* Illegally Withholding My Million Dollar Trust

location: North Carolina

I 19F believe my mother is withholding a multimillion dollar trust in my name from my grandfather. I am the youngest of 3 and my sisters received their money without issue, but my mother pretends as if mine is nonexistent. The only information ive received is that it is enough money for me to never have to work a day in my life and still live comfortably. though that is not my goal, I think itd be incredibly beneficial to have financial access. I have asked many times for the instructions of the trust, which she as the trustee holds legal obligation to provide, (i think at least??????) and yet all i receive is radio silence. She claims i am unable to know anything about the trust until i am 25, but isnt she still obligated to provide merely the guidelines at 18? i distinctly remember being told 18 for many years. she got quiet on the subject around the time i turned 17.

The only other person to openly talk to me about my trust since, is a girl exactly one year younger than me that my parents had fostered. she also had a trust from her biological father who had passed, granting her half a million dollars. after my 18th birthday she had admitted to me that my mother stated she did not think i would ever be competent enough to take ownership of my money and that my foster sister was lucky she had such thorough transparency about her trust. My foster sister then offered me as much money as needed to fight my mother in court for the transfer of ownership, but with an agreement to split all of the money (supposedly five million dollars) . I declined.

I am very clueless on what to do, I feel as if my mother has coddled me intentionally, i want to succeed on my own, but it is always her and her money over my head. She has failed me in every possible way a mother can, and she finds every way to render me dependent. i am sick of it, i just want to take my money and leave in peace. i am incredibly grateful for my grandfather, at least he isn’t here to witness his daughter’s egocentrism.