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Need Advice: 21/f, Abusive Father Attacks Me When I Leave The House Without His Permission, Tracks Me Without My Consent, Withholds Documents, Forbids Me Having Bank Account, Trying To Get Me Married In A Third World Country Against My Will

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Location: NYC, New York
[21, Female]
I'm using a throwaway because I do not want any of this tied to my personal business (which is what I mostly use Reddit for anyway).

For some context, I live in an extremely strict religious household in the heart of NYC. Growing up, my parents have always been airtight on what I am and what I'm not allowed to do. We have had several cases opened with Child Protective Services when I was a minor for physical abuse.
The reasons for the abuse would range from exchanging words with male classmates in front of them, dating people (my age, mind you), or if they were just generally in a bad mood (my parents have explosive tempers). As a teenager my father has thrown me across rooms, thrown me into his car, thrown objects at me, blocked doorways, and hit me with closed fists. My mother has done much of the same, except she's not as enforcing when it comes to the rules imposed on me.

I turned 21 last year.

My dad forced me to keep tracking on my phone and tried tricking me into having an airtag on my keychain. His trick didn't work but I had to comply anyway to avoid an altercation. And with me unable to have financial independence (my dad forbids me having a bank account until I finish my degree and have a profession), or access to my documents (he withholds them unless I have a "good reason" to use them), I don't know what I'm going to do. I can't live in this house anymore. Worse, I overheard my father talking about tricking me into another trip to his home country to get me married off within a year. And my mother signed off on all of it.

Is there any actual legal action I can take against him now that I'm above 21?
My parents have robbed me of a normal childhood. I will not let them rob me of the rest of my life.

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