Turns Out My Aunt Is A Really Bad Person

I will start by saying, I don't know how to use reddit but I listen to Two Hot Takes and have seen how helpful this platform can be, so I am shooting my shot.

Location: Utah

Setting the scene: Grandma in her 90s. Grandma had 3 children. Oldest: Aunt Wonderful. Middle: My Dad. Youngest: Aunt Snake.

Several months ago, my dad went to get Grandma her usual groceries. This was the norm and Dad always paid with Grandma's debit card. Grandma should have had a bunch of money.

Grandpa died in 2008, left Grandma set up to live out the rest of her life comfortably. With her income and outgoing bills, she should have been saving about $1000+ monthly, give or take life's expenses coming up. Basically, Grandma should have had some dough saved up. Lots of it.

However, on this fateful grocery trip of normal groceries at inflated prices, her card declined. Dad thought it was just technology being dumb, paid for Grandmas groceries himself and figured he would withdraw some of Grandma's money later to pay himself back and life would go on as normal.

When he went to do just that, the account was empty. He hadn't looked at Grandma's bank account for a very long time because there was no reason to. Grandma didn't have credit cards. Grandma didn't have a computer. Grandma didn't stay up late watching QVC. Grandma's expenses never changed. It was Aunt Snake's job to monitor the accounts, and she never said anything was ever fishy or suspicious. Aunt Snake has an accounting degree after all, so who better to monitor boring financial accounts than her? Turns out? Literally anyone else.

The account being empty was a MASSIVE red flag. My parents immediately went to the bank to get statements and to remove Aunt Snake from every account. Grandma was broken hearted to learn what her youngest daughter had potentially done.

My parents got records for 4 years. They should have gotten 7 but were in a bit of denial that things could have potentially been that bad. My mom went through every single transaction and sorted what she knew was Grandma's and what wasn't.

What did she find?

All of Grandpa's money? Gone

Profit from selling Grandma's car 7 years ago? Gone. Should have been $14k

A CREDIT CARD - MAXED OUT: $22,500 (remember, Grandma never had a credit card herself)

Transactions that are undoubtedly Aunt Snakes: $55k

Zero savings from the surplus of $1000 she should have had per month for over a decade.

My question? What next? My parents were revising the trust with Grandma to say that Aunt snake got 1/3 of the estate MINUS what she stole + attorney fees (and other fees) and were going to leave it at that. They had an appointment this week to revise the trust BUT Grandma decided to peace out on the 15th of this month and join Grandpa. So. We are all broken hearted and Aunt Snake has gone into overdrive to liquidate the estate and take her money and run. I'm sure she is already spending what she thinks she is going to get.

She has expressed zero remorse, doesn't want anyone to tell her husband or her kids, and doesn't grasp the gravity of the situation.

My parents are ready to press charges but aren't sure the appropriate way to do it.

We are in Utah and the theft only goes to Felony 2 but could be enhanced with Exploitation of an elderly person (I am not sure of the terminology. Aunt Snake was in a position of trust with an elderly woman and stole a ton of money, so whatever that translates to).

What do we do? Personally, I just want to be messy and make her life a living hell, but I know that this is serious and needs handled appropriately to be rectified. At a minimum we want it on her record so people know to be leery around her and money. At a maximum? Pay back every cent and comprehend the severity of her "silly spending".

Location: Utah