Was Catfished By A Minor That I Had A Sexually Explicit Chat With, Feels Like My Life Is Over

Location: Kentucky
Hi all, I (27M) was feeling horny and was going over the sexting subreddits where I stumbled upon a post titled “22[F4M] looking for chats with males”. This post included a picture of their breasts and had a lot of traction/comments. I didnt see anything concerning/looked out of the blue so I sent them a msg and we started a sexually explicit chat. Since they already had a nude in their post I sent them a couple as did they. They had told me they lived in Houston where they were going to university. To be honest I didn’t have any red flags go off as judging from their faceless pictures they looked 22. I was even telling them maybe I fly out to Houston on layover to meet up with them(I had to fly out west anyways). This conversation then moved over to Instagram, where we may have chatted for 10 minutes at most. On there we exchanged face pictures where she had a youngish face but nothing I haven’t seen from a 22 year old before. They didn’t look like an obvious minor to me. I had asked for one picture of her breasts on Instagram which she sent me, before saying she had to go do errands and would talk to me later.

Maybe 5-10 minutes later I see that she blocked me on both reddit and Instagram. Then 30 minutes later I get an email from Instagram saying my account activity broke their child exploitation and solicitation
Guidelines and that I needed to submit my email/phone number/picture ID and facial verification if I wanted to appeal. I never felt more anxiety in my life, I didn’t know what to do and just wanted to share my side of the story so I gave them all my info. Turns out giving them my info was all they would let me do for an “appeal”, as soon as I did they they didn’t give me any options to explain myself and said “appeal received” before denying my appeal 30 minutes later and banning me from Instagram. They told me they’d use all that identification info to forward along with my account activity as a cyber tip to NCMEC.

I feel so disgusted with myself, I would never solicit or talk to a minor and would’ve shut that conversation down if I knew their age. Because they had used a spam Instagram account to msg me on, I couldn’t see their profile for any signs that would give away they were a minor. I did some digging afterwards to see if I could get any information and was able to find their main Instagram account. With a Google search I saw they left a comment regarding a post on the SATs, so I’m inclined to think they really were a minor and instagrams automated tools caught the msgs being sent, knowing a minors account was involved.

I just don’t know what to do, all I want to do is explain myself to somebody, to tell someone I had no intention of interacting with a minor. But I’ve heard how ignorance of age is not a valid excuse for these interactions and I can already see them throwing the book at me for solicitation, talking about traveling to them for sex, child pornography, etc.
fuck man, this all happened yesterday. I’m trying to be proactive. I scheduled myself for therapy to deal with my sex addiction and complete my adhd diagnosis. Tried finding some lawyers who may be able to help me if/when I get contacted. But man, I’m just so anxious knowing that at some point in the future, whether it’s a week or 5 months from now. I’m gonna have the cops pull up and grab me for questioning, or have my face plastered on the news for being investigated for child pornography.

It’s only been a day but I had to call off work cause I couldn’t sleep/couldn’t bear going into work. I know I have to keep going but man, I just want to go to whoever deals with these investigations and tell them my side of the story, to be proactive and just deal with this already. I know that’s not recommended as the short legal counsel I had received told me it’s likely nothing happens, but if I do get contacted by police to call my lawyer immediately. I just don’t think I can function day-to-day with this weight hanging over my head, knowing that anyday now my life as I know it is going to be over.
What do I do?