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Who Has The Rights To Plan The Funeral Service?

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Location: Virginia

My fiancé died yesterday. I have to call the funeral home today so they can receive him. I think he would want a public viewing for all his friends and family to come and to be cremated after. He was 25, we never planned a funeral. Who plans a funeral at 25? I don’t think his parents will try to fight me on what I think he would want, do I have any legal standing since we weren’t married? They lost custody of him as a kid and have barely had contact with him in the 8 and a half years we were together. We also have a 2 year old and a 6 week old, do the become next of kin in this situation? Any advice is appreciated, I don’t know what to do.

ETA: He was is foster care because both of them lost custody and went to jail. He hasn’t seen his mom in atleast 2 years and his dad in 1 but him and his dad were maybe a little close, he rarely talked to either of them. I didn’t even have their numbers i had to get it through his brother, who has been the closest of them all. I don’t know if he had life insurance but his grandpa might be the one paying. i don’t want to fight them on what he would want but I found him, i am so drained i don’t think i have a lot of fight in me if they pay and make their own decisions. i just don’t think he would want to just be put in some cemetery.

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