[or] Husband Offered $4k/month Support + A ~$250k Asset Split, But Filed Saying No Support & Property Already Divided.

Military divorce, no children.

Location: Oregon (Benton County/Linn county)

Husband (M30) filed for divorce this week. We’ve been married 12 years; he’s active duty and I (F31) currently have $0 income.

We intended to have an amicable divorce and verbally agreed on financial terms. However he’s not wanting to put the terms in writing.

He offered me $4,000/month in temporary support after I mentioned being afraid since I still have no income. He currently makes $10k+/month.

We have roughly $425k+ in known financial assets, including a $220k CD that matures next year and $136.5k in savings, plus checking and his retirement accounts.
We verbally agreed to wait until the CD matures to split it, but none of this is in writing.
He says I’m going to receive roughly $250k total, but I haven’t received written- anything, showing how he plans to do that.

He filed the divorce petition stating no spousal support and that our property has already been divided. It hasn’t.

He says putting support/property terms into the divorce documents means we’ll have to “go to court,” lawyers will “nickel and dime” everything and I could screw myself by contesting it when he’s already being generous.

He got mad when I said I would file a response, called me greedy/ignorant and said $250k should be enough for me to live on for 10 years.

There have also been problems with service. After realizing he served me incorrectly, he sent me all over to try and fix it, then I found out he had to, then he comes and says he served me correctly, but he messed up with not filling out a page or two so he was going to backdate paperwork to correct it. Then joked that he was trying to sabotage my 30days to respond. He also acts like me responding with anything other than “looks great, thanks” is an act of war.

Main questions:

Why do I keep getting turned away from attorneys?

Is there any legitimate reason an agreed $4k/month support arrangement and future division of a ~$220k CD shouldn’t be written into an enforceable divorce settlement/judgment?

Does putting agreed terms in writing actually force an otherwise amicable Oregon divorce into litigation?

Is this something we should put in a contract?
How do I respond correctly?

Backstory could be useful, idk: https://www.reddit.com/r/relationship_advice/s/Wk0JsInGvu