22f Struggling With Legal Advice On A Intimate Situation

Location: Arizona

I’m not sure where to go with this or what I should do. I live in Arizona and I’m 22F. This involves one other person who is 23M and we have been in a consenting relationship since January 1st, but have been talking and in contact since November 23rd of 2025.

As couples do, we have sex regularly in multiple different ways. My partner liked to have pictures regularly as well, but he mostly enjoyed amateur videos he would take during intercourse. This intercourse would include a lot of different things and at the time, I was okay with it because I trusted him. He would verbally tell me they were for both of us, but they never were sent to me and he keeps them hidden on his phone.

I tried to end things with him amicably and I wished him nothing but the best. I didn’t want to end in bad terms, but he spent an hour or two calling me worthless or a manipulative piece of shit. I did not engage with this, just kept the good vibes going and I asked him to leave my house repeatedly, but he wouldn’t engage with that and would just keep staying to talk more about how much I have impacted his life in a negative way.

He was finally leaving, so I asked him one last thing. Could you delete the videos and pictures you have of me on your phone before we go our separate ways? He said no, they were his and he would do what he pleased with them. I started recording the conversation without him knowing, then kept asking if he was going to keep videos he had of me in these positions even if I’m not okay with it and I don’t want him to have these if we aren’t in a relationship anymore. He wouldn’t respond, so I continued to explain that I just don’t want pictures or videos of me potentially getting out there. Then he proceeded to say he will send them wherever he wants.

This then led to him suggesting he will put my guy friends that I’m close with into a group chat and send these videos there for them to see. He continued to say bad things about me, but he kept making me watch the videos of our sex life and wanted me to pick which one he was going to send to “destroy my life.”

I have a voice recording of him saying he will send them wherever he wants and I have a voice recording of the things he was saying to me, but that’s all I have. He promised he would never do that and promised to delete these videos. They have not been deleted and we have not spoken about this night since. I have tried to bring up the pictures and videos, but he doesn’t engage.

What should I do? Are there grounds for me to protect myself legally? What would be the next best step for me as a young, broke 22F who is living halfway across the country from my family and out here by myself.