Complicated Living Situation For My Father- Looking For Advice.

Location: Kalamazoo Michigan.

He and my former step mother, Judy, got divorced back in 94 or 95. They both had addiction issues and it all got really ugly. My dad managed to get clean, get his life together, and after about 8 years, finally moved out of a halfway house. He was in a terrible accident in 92 and broke his leg in over 200 places- so he's on disability. He never made a lot of money, so his disability check is barely enough for him to survive. He also has a section 8 voucher

Meanwhile, Judy -who has pretty severe bipolar disorder, she has managed it before, there was about 2 years where she was doing ok, but she went off her meds and had a mania fueled crystal meth bender for about 6 months or so. She lost her apartment and the whole nine yards. She showed up at my dad's house with a u haul truck that she was living out of, and my dad told her she could stay with him to get on her feet. That was 6 years ago. Judy is also on disability due to a car accident she was in several years back that left her non-dominant arm paralized- she can't really use it, but she can do just about everything. Her disability check is pretty good, as she was a teacher and made pretty good money during her career-before she was fired for failing multiple drug tests.

Anyway, she's been on my dad's couch for 6 years. She lost all of her forms of identification, and can no longer access her bank account. My brother has helped her to get a few items of identification, all she needs to do to get a social security card is to go to the doctor, then she will be able to gain access to her bank account. She knows this, and refuses to make the appointment or to go. She has been accruing her disability over the past 6 years while my dad has been paying for everything for her. He barely has a pot to piss in. She goes months without showering, and genuinely does not get off of this couch. My dad has ASD (only diagnosed by my sister in law, who is a Doctor of behavioral psychology and works with autistic kids) he's terrified of conflict and can't confront her. He is also under the impression that he could lose his section 8 voucher if he gets caught having her there. My brother is his legal care taker, so brother is fine living there, but dad is reluctant to involve authorities.

I have 2 half brothers, one of which is currently my father's care taker. Dad is pretty much all there mentally- but he's terrified of confrontation, and won't kick her out.

My dad was also making her dinner, and waiting on her hand and foot. At first I think it was nice for him to have someone to take care of, but his health started failing and he can no longer care for himself. He has heart disease and kidney disease, and his last stay in the hospital has left him very weak, he can barely make a pot of coffee without being completely exhausted- he can no longer care for her as well, and my brother refuses to care for his mother- which is a REAL complicated topic that I won't go into here, but my brother is in the right to have no love lost for his biological mother.

One of my brothers has offered to let her come live with him in another state, and offered to get her set up with an apartment and everything she needs- she refuses.

My dad and brother are currently in my home- we wanted to get my dad out of the situation, because it's terrible for his mental health, and we are currently trying to figure out what to do with Judy., how to get her the help she needs while also getting her out of his home. While they have been gone, she has been taking care of herself-cooking meals etc. My dad is still buying her groceries. Originally we planned on having a wellness check done on her - in hopes she'd be taken in for evalluation. She desperately needs to be assessed by a mental health professional, and a medical professional. She has a social worker, but I couldn't say the last time she spoke with said social worker. I don't know how to find that out.

We want to find an option for her, somewhere for her to go where she will be safe and get the health she needs, or she can go her own way.

She's not my mom, so I can't have her committed or anything. I'm. unsure if my brother's can do that- they are willing, but we really don't know what to do.

We do have contacts in the mental health care community in Kalamazoo. There is also a mental health immediate care there, which is amazing and I wish there were more of those facilities around.

Anyway, I hope no one reads this and thinks that I'm just a jerk with no empathy. I have more empathy than most for mental health issues- this woman is taking advantage of this situation, she's not a good person and needs to be out of my father's life- her presence is diminishing the quality of whatever life he has left and I don't know what to do.