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Desperate Need Of Immediate Advice

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Location: Arizona

I'm going to keep this rather vague but say the important information that I believe to me the main focus of everything. For the sake of the assistance/argument i just need you to believe what I'm saying to be the absolute unbiased truth.

My child (older than 10 younger than 13) has been in a split custody with my ex-partner for around 6-7 years. While extreme domestic violence occurred in the home ( my ex partner did to me, i was not abusive, also provided VIDEO proof of this to a DCS agent, also police report numbers, this is important later)

I truly and genuinely believed my ex would never lay their hands like that on my child. My child was/is a gleeful and happy kid. Nothing ever tipped me off anything more than my ex yelling or being selfish to my child with the occasional "spanking." which my child corroborated at the time as not being a big deal. As the years passed nothing big has happened and my child has what i would consider a stable life.

This was all turned on its head recently (not going to put the time frame) my child confided in me a lot of abuse that is going on. I wont go into detail about the stories, they're too specific. While this hasn't reached the "punch in the face" yet level of abuse, its extreme otherwise, and honestly like evil. Manipulative, aggressive, violent, sexual in nature even. My child then went and told a mandatory reporter about what was going on. DCS was contacted and they dragged their feet. Took a week to even meet with me after meeting my child, Then met with my ex then told me "We have not gathered enough information to state that your child would be unsafe at the other parents house at this time." I actually cant believe this is happening.

We immediately(at the same time as the mandatory report happened, literally the same day) sought the council of a lawyer and we filed what he told us to. An emergency one and a trial date on or something. When i got to the courthouse they said the judge had left, then said the judge would stay to look at my paperwork, but pushed the paperwork forward and denied the emergency request and set a court date for way too far from now for my comfort. (also important to note the judge did not at this time have any ruling or information from DCS they just knew that a mandatory reporter had reported and DCS was investigating, also mentions of all the abuse my child had experienced)

My ex is going to obviously make the request for my child (they've already texted me about it for tomorrow making the request for a trade off location.) So I've had to explain to my child that they'd have to go back to my ex's place next week. It did not go over well. My child had a complete breakdown. They are scared stiff of going back to their other parents home and I don't know what to do. When I asked a police officer (the school one) He stated my child could refuse to go on our tradeoff day but it could reflect badly on me in court. Its the weekend and i cannot seek legal counsel at this time. I need to know what I could possibly do to protect my child. There is a very real fear of backlash of violence for all this (Ex was served and DCS interviewed her, so ex is aware of everything my child said about them.) Ex also has my child's passport and has fled the country with them before. Please help me, help me keep my child safe. I'm so desperate.

EDIT: Want to reiterate we cannot meet with the lawyer until monday, Switch time for my child is tomorrow and my child does not want to go and is refusing to go and knowing the retaliation that could be awaiting them i feel like such a horrible parent if i let my ex take my child tomorrow. They denied our emergency temporary custody request we already requested. Also the stuff I filed at the court was as follows:

Petition to modify legal decision making and parenting time and request for hearing

motion for post decree temporary orders without notice

motion for pots decree temporary orders re: legal decision making and parenting time and request for hearing.

- i believe they were called rule 47 and 48

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