Elderly Lady's Power Of Attorney Mysteriously/mis Behaving

Location: New York City

Hello everyone! My friend Anna is 89, her power of attorney has very questionable acts that concerns me and I wanted any input how to deal with. Andy was first Anna’s student and then friend since about 20 years ago. At some point along the way, he started to take care of Anna’s finances, and became her attorney, making her invest in different things and made contributions on her finance and income.

Anna’s very rotten nephews overseas have alway been in close contact with Andy trying to move Anna with them and gaining total control of her money. Andy has been honest so far regarding respecting Anna’s change of minds on not moving after being pushed into moving around 2024, however he is acting very mysteriously and doing things I can’t figure out why. He discontinued Anna’s autopay for landline Internet and cellphone, which I set for her since 6 years ago. Andy made a point to not let me spend money for Anna anymore and everything Needs his approval, I went along with it for a few months just to keep it peaceful so that Anna doesn’t suffer our collision. I gave him a three weeks notice on Anna’s overdue spectrum bill, just to respect that he would like to pay not via me any more. He refused and said it will be paid when Anna returns from her trip.

But now we are in a Troubling week- not only Anna's phone service is suspended, but Anna’s internet is suspended and can’t get on church service if I don’t pay by tomorrow. Andy insists on paying with check, which will take at the very least another week. I was advised by Anna’s neighbor Nelly not to anger him as he is a lawyer can hurt me in ways- though I frankly have nothing to lose. I tried to ask him if I may pay, and he got very angry when I told him I hand paid for her cellphone because it was not paid and needs to be paid. His response was “stop it, your involvement in her finances is making my life difficult.” I told him that that Anna Can’t even call her sister for happy birthday. He said again "please, do not pay for anything anymore." And the next day instead rectifying it, he called Anna to explicitly ask her that I shall not pay for her. I did eventually on Friday night, as if I don't Anna won't be able to join her church zoom service the next day. it's really strange that he doesn't allow her receiving online deposit from her teaching either. Any comments are welcome on what might he has in mind, how can Anna and I deal with him. Anna is very old and very vulnerable, so I’m not sure how her wonderful friend Carol’s suggestion of limiting his power as power of attorney can even possibly work. Thank you very much!

I am not uncertain what to do if her attorney requests to speak to me, would you think would it be the best to turn it down and just not to speak to him? I have a lot to say, but I know I would get emotional and very personal, given that all we have is spaculation and truly do not undertsand his mysterious acts. Thank you!

Location: New York City