Estranged Mother Is Back In My Life And Could Financially Ruin Me

Location: Oregon

My(m38) mother(F63) who lost custody of me when I was 11 due to a drug problem and who up until about 2 years ago lived on the other side of the country is now living in Oregon and her problems have become mine. I am worried about her being a financial burden and filial responsibility laws

Backstory: my mother is an former drug addict. She lost custody of me and I moved from Florida to Pennsylvania to live with my father when I was 11. She has been on and off in my life, relapsed multiple times, but mostly she hasn’t been part of my life. We kept in touch a couple times a year on the phone and I would see her maybe once a year sometimes once every other year. About 14 years ago she inherited a large sum of money from my grandmother and moved into a luxury apartment in south florida. She then proceeded to blow through her inheritance and despite having a job she ended up in massive debt, about 2 years ago she lost her job and was facing eviction. Her brothers, who also live in Florida, decided to send her to live with me and my wife in Oregon(I moved here 4 years ago for work). Their goal was for her to live with me and have a clean slate, get working, and eventually get her own apartment etc… I was not involved in the decision I was only informed once they bought her a plane ticket. since she has moved out here she has been a nightmare. It took her 6 months to find a job and she got fired within 3 months of working. She then attempted to commit suicide in our house. She spent 2-3 weeks at a mental hospital and upon discharge we told her she was no longer welcome in our house. She had managed to save about 10k from her job, she also collects SS. She then bounced around between multiple airbnbs and hotels before finding a long term Airbnb that she has been living in for the past year. She also managed to find a part time job at a grocery store. Even with a job and SS she still barely makes enough to survive. She is also a hoarder and doesn’t take care of herself, she was hospitalized in February from diabetic keto acidosis. She stopped using her glucose monitor and was just guesstimating her insulin.

Current situation: In mid march she had a slip and fall accident and broke her back, her pelvis, and her arm and has been in the hospital or a Skilled Nursing facility since. She had multiple surgeries and is currently immobilized but rehabbing and learning how to walk again. She was ineligible for short term disability from work due to lack of hours. I was informed today by the social worker at the SNF that her insurance is beginning to drop the days for authorization down from 7 to 4 which is usually a sign that they are going to deny coverage soon. If she is denied she will have to leave the facility. She currently is unable to walk and would require a caregiver to help her use the bathroom, bath, cook etc. She cannot afford this and she has no way of paying her rent(SS alone doesn’t cover her monthly rent). She is essentially immobile and going to be homeless. The social worker is trying to get her on Medicare/medicaid long term disability for her to go to an assisted living facility but that could take months. As I mentioned before, she is not welcome in our home. I have a family to provide for, a young child and I have a second on the way. I refuse to spend any money on her and my wife would divorce me if I did.

Question: am I potentially legally obligated to take care of her? We cannot afford a full time caregiver or to pay her rent. Her brothers are of no help, I suspect that they thought something like this might happen and figured it was best to get her as far away from them as possible. This would be a different story if she had been part of my life, took care of herself, and had an accident.

TLDR: estranged mother is back in my life with no money and can’t afford rent/healthcare. She is now disabled due to a fall and is probably going to be discharged from her rehab facility and is facing homelessness. Am I potentially legally responsible for her care?