False Sexual Assault Allegation Being Spread In My Community: How Should I Proceed?

Location: New Mexico

I’m looking for advice on how to proceed cautiously in a situation involving a false allegation.

Recently I learned that a man has apparently been telling people in my community that I sexually assaulted a woman in high school.

The allegation is completely false. I have never sexually assaulted anyone, and I don’t even know who the alleged victim is supposed to be.

According to people who spoke with this individual, they brought up my name, made the allegation, and provided an alias and phone number for someone they claimed could provide more information. Apparently nobody present recognized this person.

No name, date, incident, or specific details were provided. There has been no police contact, no investigation that I’m aware of, and no formal complaint.

The rumor has understandably upset people and created tension in some personal and professional relationships.

So far, I’ve spoken with my therapist and my parents, started reaching out to attorneys, documented everything I’ve been told, and avoided directly contacting people connected to the rumor.

My main concern is protecting my reputation without making the situation worse.

For anyone who has dealt with false allegations, rumors, or reputation attacks:

What steps would you recommend?
What mistakes should I avoid?
Is it generally better to gather information quietly or actively challenge the rumor?
At what point would you involve an attorney more formally?

I’m trying to approach this calmly and responsibly rather than emotionally.