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I Got A Protection Order Against My Ex. What Do I Do Next?

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Location: ohio

I (32f) have never gone through something like this and have no idea what to expect or should do. I just broke up with my boyfriend (48) for yelling at my daughter. He is not the father, we were only living together a little over a year. I was living in my place for about 8 months before he moved in. I furnished 95% of the house. He only had a few things he brought.

During the break up we were arguing and he was telling me its his place I need to leave. I had family on the way to pick my daughter up. I was in my daughter's room comforting her and he called the cops on me saying he was in fear of his life.

Cops showed up, everything was OK. I was told to go to courthouse for eviction process in the morning. After everyone left I tried to talk to him but he was mocking me with a tone and gestures so I didn't say anything else. I went to bed and he slept on the couch.

Next morning I went to get the eviction. Explained things from the past and why it lead to the break up. Anyways I was told I should be getting a protection order and to forget the eviction paperwork for now.

Got emergency protection and went to stay with family that had my daughter until cops showed up to my house and he was asked to leave from my property that evening.

Now I had mentioned a few things but what im guessing granted me the order was because in March we had an argument and I had went over and unplugged my own TV and he had thrown the remote that way and hit the TV and broke it. I still have the broken TV and took pictures of it. I have pictures of how it was set up in my living room before from months prior but can show where I was and where the remote hit th TV.

Also I mentioned how in December I had returned home from work one night and as I was at the door he opened it and threw my cat out and she hit the tree before landing and ran away. Not sure if this is something I should bring up unless asked.

Also mentioned how he had started yelling at my daughter for wanting more snacks or to eat late at night a couple months ago but the past few weeks its more often as well as yelling at her for walking out to living room multiple times because it interferes with him playing video games. He will huff and puff the more frustrated he gets with her and/or me. A couple days before the break up i noticed she tiptoed to me but stared at him the entire time and was whispering to me she was hungry. Not sure if any of this should be brought up.

For the first couple days I felt guilty and horrible for getting the protection order but now I feel alot better for having it. I wanted it because I didnt feel safe in the residence with him especially with my daughter there. I still want legal protection from any unwanted contact while everything is recent.

I wasnt given much time to prepare. Court is in a couple days. I can ask for continuance, not sure if i should, I think im being provided someone but if not then do I have enough to stand for myself? Any advice is appreciated, I have no idea what to expect.

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