I Was Sa’d And Am Being Pressured To Drop The Case, And I Was Billed For Emergency Medial Care After The Incident That’s Coverage Is Contingent On Being A Victim Of A Crime. How Do I Proceed?

location: Texas

I had consensual oral sex that turned into non-consensual anal sex. I went to the clinic/ER the next day for emergency PEP treatment to prevent HIV/Stds. The nurses informed me I wouldn’t be liable for the medical treatment because I told them it was not consensual and I needed help. They told me it’s important to fill out a police report, which I did.

A few weeks later I have a large medical bill applied to my hospital account/insurance account. I called and have been getting the run-around, but was told it may just take some time. But as of right now they are charging me with the massive fee.

On the other half of things, my police report has turned into a full investigation. This investigation is ongoing, but is boiling down to, according to the detective, “there’s no evidence, it’s he said vs she said. one party says it was unconsensual penetration, the other says it was consensual”.

I am being told by the detective that because I consented to oral sex, the jury will not buy that I didn’t want anal sex. They are also telling me that because I didn’t fight harder to stop it, it will not hold up and is pressuring me to drop it, but I was scared and in the moment it was not easy to fight or kick them out or anything, I told them to stop and not do it and then they did it anyway and i resisted but eventually i just tried to endure it. My therapist says this is a fawn response.

I am unsure what to do. The detective keeps telling me it will not hold up in court and asking me over and over again if i’m sure I want to do this. It’s sewing doubt into myself over the weeks. I have told this story to police and nurses and detectives multiple times now and the detective just keeps telling me that the jury will not buy it, “the jury isn’t a group of psychologists” and “there’s no proof or cameras”.

All the asking me if I’m sure is making me lose steam and confidence. It’s been weeks of this. I just want to heal. I want justice yes, and this person to not hurt anyone else, but mostly I want this all to be over. If i drop the case and just try to heal, im worried the $5000 (after insurance) medical bill from treatment I was forced to get for my own safety after the fact will not be extinguished. But, I want to honor myself and what happened but it’s emotionally taxing and I am unsure how to proceed.

What steps can I take forward? I know what happened to me was not ok, but without proof it is my word against his. I am being broken down by this process and detective and could use some advice to help with how to get my medical bill from an assault changed, and what to do about this detective/investigation. I want to stand by my statement and report, because I know what happened to me was not ok, but the stakes and legality and money of it all is starting to terrify me and the medical bill is terrifying me too.

She asked me today if I want to send the report into the Grand Jury after she said the other persons story aligned with mine up to a point, and that they got a lawyer. I’ve never been in this circumstance before and I’m overwhelmed.