In Process Of Adoption/just Found Out Wife May (likely) Have Terminal Cancer.

Hi. Location: Bernalillo co, New Mexico.

After almost 5 years with our daughters, who are bio sisters, (this has been a complicated case in many ways, with a lot of CPS workers dropping the ball) we have finally been given the green light to adopt our daughters. TPR is in process and the next steps are being set.

We are in New Mexico. Bern co.

In the last month (had NO suspicion of anything wrong before this) my wife has been diagnosed with a late stage (stage 4) advanced, aggressive, rare cancer. She is now being treated at one of the top cancer centers, and the Dr hasn't outright said this yet (we just started treatment here) but to be bluntly and horrifyingly realistic, she will probably not live very long.

She is declining very quickly now. Physically, mentally. The pain is horrible. The prognosis is horrible. Every result we get back is more horrible than the last.

I am splitting my time between being with her (out of state) where she is being treated while our family cares for our kids, (we also have another child, a son, who we have already adopted from foster care) and being at home with my kids while family/friends stay with her and care for her.

I am 100000% committed to going through with this adoption. I love my kids more than anything else in this world. My youngest daughter has been with us since she was 1. She doesn't remember anything before us. She is my baby.

I can't lose them.

I have, of course, disclosed to CPS/CYFD that my wife has been diagnosed with cancer -- as you must, legally, disclose any major health changes. I have not told them the extent or specifics of it yet though. We didn't even yet know how bad it was when I disclosed.

When I disclosed the cancer diagnosis (but not the stage/the severity/the prognosis) the case workers assured me that this would NOT impact the adoption.

But I am terrified that once the severity of it is disclosed and/or if my wife dies, they will not allow me to adopt.

Has anyone (god, I hope not -- and I'm so SO f ing sorry if you have) gone through a similar situation or know someone who has? What was the outcome?

Do you think they will allow me to adopt our daughters, as a single dad, providing of course that I can prove I am still a fit parent and can (with help of family) provide for them?

We have provided a very stable, nurturing, loving environment for them. We have done everything we can to advocate for their safety, security, health, success, happiness. We are all completely bonded.

The girls are especially bonded to me. My wife and I have had a (gender "non traditional" -- tho obv this is becoming more common) dynamic/roles definition in which she has worked full time and been more of the bread winner, so to speak, and I have worked part time and been more involved with their education, appointments, special needs services, transport, weekday care. I have also been the primary contact for all CPS/CYFD stuff - home visits, check ins, etc.

Do you think they will challenge the adoption in my situation?

Thank you so much for reading this and for your help.