Spouse Avoiding Being Served Divorce Papers, Won’t Answer The Door

Location: Tennessee

Hello. No dependents, we aren’t living together, I moved out and tried starting this process over 2 years ago. Since we separated I let her keep the house, I fixed the staircase for her, got her new lights, paid her car off, fixed the plumbing and since have been paying all of the mortgage and her phone and car insurance. She also needed a surgery and has been using my military insurance for all of her dental, medical, and such and maybe that’s another reason she’s avoiding. I want to be able to move on with my life and get out of my parents’ house but so much of my income is going to her expenses and I’m tired of paying a mortgage where I don’t live. She will 100% be able to refinance if she wants as the balance is not high and her income is higher than mine although I’m the one getting screwed. I tried texting her for so long to come up with an uncontested agreement, let her know I wasn’t going to take anything from her etc and she would only ever text me if the mortgage payment was a few days late during the government shutdown. She left me no choice but to go contested, my terms are more than fair and she is just prolonging this further; I don’t know if she’s taking advantage that I’m paying everything or what.

My lawyer said the process server tried serving her 14-15 times already and she won’t answer the door and the lawyer asked for a new address. She still lives there she’s just not answering the door. I have been so cordial and easy so I don’t understand. I don’t know if I can give her work address to my lawyer to be served but I didn’t want to have to do that.