Dog After Divorce

My husband and I are officially divorced as of January 11 2026. We had a dog who is going to be 10 years old this autumn. My ex had him for one year before we met, and I have been everything to the dog for 7 years of his life. I have spent money and time 50/50. I love the dog so much. I have a tattoo of the dog. I left the country on a safety leave as my ex has anger issues and has been abusive (I am on an official safety leave, and have evidence of abuse). I also filed a restraining order in February as he was sending me horrible and mean texts on any platform he could, it’s been quiet and peaceful since then. The restraining order states needs to keep communication strictly relevant to coordinating care for the dog. (No using the dog to manipulate me in various ways). Our divorce paperwork states we will split the dog 50/50 time and money. I blocked him on Venmo because he was sending a ton of requests over things we hadn’t agreed on / that aren’t in the divorce papers. I have been gone for close to 3 months to preserve my safety and take a much needed mental break from him. Now that I’m coming back I reached out a couple times over the last week to coordinate dates to drop off / pick up the dog. He isn’t responding. What can I do? I think it’s best for the welfare of the dog to have us both in our lives. I want a 50/50 split, I’ll do all the dropping off and picking up. I have a feeling he’ll be just ignoring me to get a rise out of me.

Should I just show up at the old apartment? Should I sue him and take the dog altogether(I don’t want to do that to my ex, because I think he really cares for the dog too).

Location: MN