Grandma Being Taken Advantage Of By Two Men From Nicaragua And Has Given Them Everything And Is Brainwashed By Them. California
Don't really know how to start, but here goes. Backstory first. i'll try and keep things short, but it might end up long. I don't know how to properly structure this, but ill try my best.
Location: California.
Two of her "family" members came from Nicaragua, they are her sisters husbands nephews. They came to help take care of her because she was getting old, me and my mom lived with her for 10 years and helped her out, but we were moving out, they came around the same time so it was good timing since they would help her out, keep in mind me and my mom paid her rent and bills to live there, that's important to the story.
Anyway, they helped out everything was fine for about a year and half they were nice and helpful. Initially my grandma had the house for the will left to her nephew and sister, but she decided to change it to my mom and one of the guys from nicaragua. She split it 50/50 and was basically doing it to thank my mom/me and the guys for helping take care of her so long. Once again at this point I personally didn't really know them that well, but they were always nice, about a year and a half in we find out she secretly married one of the guys, she was buying him tons of things letting them live rent free and everything, keep in mind he had a permit to work and makes money. She even bought him a 50k car. They spend literally 0 dollars, she pays for everything, they have been fixing the house using her money also, before they came she had over 200k now shes down to 50k in just a few years.
My mom did everything for her also for a decade, managing her accounts, driving her everywhere, her appoints, everything. My mom also did all that for free, remember we paid rent and everything, these guys help out but they're not using any of their money for anything at all. Even small things like a coffee they use her card for everything. Their attitude slowly changed over time, basically trying to cause a divide between her and other family members, especially the sister and now my mom.
My dad died last year and me and my mom couldnt visit her for about 2 months, in addition to that my mom has been sick for the past year and could not visit her much at all for the past year. During the time me and my mom couldnt visit, they were telling my grandma things like "she got her part of the house that's why she doesnt visit anymore" eventually they secretly went to change the will to only be him. We just found that out because they got into an argument and for some reason he decided to reveal that.
About my grandmas health, she has had early stages of either alzheimers or dementia, i cant remember which, for about a decade now? It has slowly been getting worse over time, my mom would tell me how she repeats the same things over and over, she forgets things, she accuses people of stealing stuff, but she's the one who hid the things and forgets, other family members can attest to this and my mom telling them about it for years, but as far as I know she still gets medically cleared to make decisions?? I feel like the people/doctors who question her don't fully know how she is.
She's even told my mom before to freeze her credit cards to stop them from stealing her money, but at the same time, she always says yes to him, and never says no. She like constantly flip flops back and forth. She's in love with him and im also pretty sure she's scared no one will take care of her. So she always says yes to him no matter what. I think no matter what happens she will take their side and defend them against any social worker or anyone investigating.
They also just changed the password and cut my mom off from the bank account, yesterday, we did download all her bank statements before that though, and it shows how she is always spending money on them and they never contribute any money at all.
The main guy, her husband, just got denied for the second time a few days ago, so they gave up on trying to get citizenship and as far as we know their current plan is to move to nicaragua and buy a house (using her money of course) within literally the next 15 days. The brother of the husband (whos visa expired about 6 months ago and he's here completely illegally now) is going to stay in the house and take care of it. They accused my mom of reporting them to ICE (we did but that was after, so that had no effect on them getting denied) and that's why they got denied, now my grandma thinks thats why they got denied and she is angry at my mom.
Their plan is just have her visit nicaragua for a month or two then my grandma will come back, but I know damn well if she gets on that plane she is never coming back. She was just in the hospital 2 weeks ago for some fluid build up shes been having in her legs and arms. Even if shes medically fine over there, he will 100% convince her not to come back, he can convince her of anything.
Also just found out they basically secretly record everything in order to use that audio to manipulate my grandma. We never gave consent or had knowledge of the recordings, as far I read online it's illegal to record someone without their knowledge in california.
To summarize:
- They secretly got married
- Secretly changed the will
- Spent all her money and plan to spend the rest on a house in nicaragua
- Tried to divide the family telling lies
- have brainwashed her to be against my mom
- Never contributed any money while they were here
- Locked my mom out of my grandmas bank even though my mom has had access and helped her out for over a decade paying her bills.
- Current plan is to move within 15 days
- Illegal brother will stay in the house to take care of it. (no idea why)
- have recordings of us without our knowledge.
What we have done since finding out they secretly changed the will.
-Reported both to ICE.
-Called social services who said they're gonna try to visit within the next 10 days, but we will call again on monday and tell them they're trying to leave the country soon so they need to hurry.
-Call a elder law attorney on monday and see what they say, we have no money for an actual lawyer though, so it will only be a consultation appointment for advice :/
- Call her doctors and see if it's possible for them to do anything, like saying she's not medically well enough to travel.
I don't really know what else we can do, or who to call, which is why im making this thread for advice, I know this is probably above this subs paygrade, but just looking for advice.
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