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My Parents Have Had Me Living Alone At 17 In An Extremely Dirty House For Over Two Months And I Have No Idea How To Get Out

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Location: Pennsylvania (Pittsburgh area)

I am using a burner account so that my parents don't find this. I am 17 years old, and since July 7th of this year my parents have not been home living with me. My dad became the owner of a local business earlier this year, and has decided to live there "until the season ends" (in October), in a camper that he bought with my stepmom and my young brother. This came with no warning when it started. On the 7th my parents told me they'd be spending the night at the shop, and they just haven't come back. I don't believe that they're going to come back after it closes for the season.

The house itself is not in suitable condition for me or anyone to be living in at all. The carpets are all stained from years of cat and dog piss, there's animal feces all around the house, there's mold on at least my bathroom walls, there's an extremely bad flea infestation, no washer or dryer, the oven doesn't work, it's horrible. It's so disgusting I sob every time I walk into my house because I don't have a home to go to. I have a rotting carcass of a house that I need to live in alone with no support.

School is starting this month and I am really at a loss of what to do. I've tried to talk to so many people but nobody is of any help. CYS has visited my family ~7 times already in my lifetime and I'm just so, so tired of them being completely useless. I can't take this much longer, I feel like I'm going insane. I'm extremely mentally unwell and it just keeps getting worse. I'm incredibly depressed and dissociating often and I'm losing hope and becoming suicidal. I can't stand living alone in this dump anymore. I've tried to explain this to my parents multiple times, but my dad has some sort of god complex and I really mean it when I say that there is no use talking to him. My stepmom has tried to support me and get me things that I need like food, but she rarely answers her phone when I call her, and she won't come home. I would ask her so many times to come home and she would tell me that she will and then she just doesn't. I want to believe at least she is there for me but she is not.

I do have a mom, who lives in a very small apartment with my stepdad, my sister, and my brother. Moving to my mom's would not be practical. My mom's family is poor and can barely even afford to feed themselves, and there's literally just no room for me or my belongings due to the small size of the apartment. I also have two cats here that are very dear to me, neither of which could come to my mom's with me either.

I don't know what to do anymore, and I don't even know what I want to be done. I don't want to live with my father anymore, I hate him. I just want to live in a normal house with a normal family. I feel like there's nowhere for me to go, and nobody for me to talk to. I feel completely alone in the world. Please just help me figure out all of the options that I have and the recommended steps to take.

Edit: I want to also express my fear to reach out for help.

I'm extremely scared about the consequences with my parents. My dad will be insanely angry and he's a nightmare when he's angry and he's a drunk which does not make anything better. He's a manipulative, selfish asshole. I do still love my stepmom, and she and my dad have my 6 year old little brother. I don't want anything happening to him or my stepmom. She's openly expressed to both me and my father that she doesn't want to be in this situation at all and she has tried to make things better. She's chronically in pain and my father already expects way too much from her but he throws a huge fit if he doesn't get his way. I want her and my brother away from him too.

I also do not trust many of the services and systems available. I've been struggling with so much mentally my whole life and out of all the times I've tried to get help I've been failed. Out of the 7 times CYS has visited my family, not one time was any action taken. I'm tired of being failed and abandoned.

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